What is a Queen? Now Queens I told you I was coming for you next. What happen? Well let me start over, the Webster’s definition of a Queen is a female monarch. Let’s forget about Webster’s for a minute and concentrate more on Proverbs 31. I first heard of the Proverbs 31 woman from a bible study at West Acres Baptist Church when I lived in Augusta. Now I will be the first to admit when I read it there were a lot of “Oh no those days are over” comments coming from me and other women in the class. If you haven’t read Proverbs 31 please stop reading this blog and pull out your bible and read it before you continue. Oh wait let me just post it here:
The Proverbs 31 Woman :
- 10An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
11The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
12She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
kind Her Character
as a Wife
- 13She looks for wool and flax
And works with her hands in delight.
14She is like merchant ships;
She brings her food from afar.
goes extra mile to get choicest goods
15She rises also while it is still night
And gives food to her household
And portions to her maidens.
16She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard.
enterprising, prudent with money
17She girds herself with strength
And makes her arms strong.
18She senses that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle.
diligent Her Devotion
as a Homemaker
- 20She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
compassionate, generous Her Generosity
as a Neighbor
- 21She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
industrious Her Devotion
as a Homemaker
- 25Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
26She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
wise Her Influence
as a Teacher
- 27She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
manages her home
28Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
29″Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
distinguished Her Effectiveness
as a Mother
- 30Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.
honored Her Excellence
as a Person
http://www.proverbs31woman.com~ Proverbs 31:10-31
I know it’s a lot to take in but I want to be that woman to my future husband. I want to teach my daughters how to be that woman. I want to teach my sons how to treat that woman. I want a strong family unit. When Barak Obama was first elected into office I heard someone say that this was an example of an intact black family and the black community hasn’t seen an intact family since the Cosby’s and they were not real. What does that say about our community as a whole? Where did we go wrong? Queens we have to start knowing our worth, if we do not know our worth how can we expect a man to? It’s time to start demanding respect and in order to do that we have to respect ourselves. Put God first in your life Queens and then he will lead you down the path of righteousness and you will then discover how to be that woman. We do not make men court us anymore; they don’t have to work hard to get us so why should they work hard to keep us? The old saying goes “why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free.” Queens some of us have given away a lot of milk. I’m not excluded from this, I have a long way to go but I am able to admit that and make the necessary changes in my life.
Queens I see us walking around with our breast and booty hanging out but when a man says something out of the way to you, you have the nerve to get mad. Well if it walks like a duck! There is nothing wrong with being sexy but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t leave anything to the imagination. I believe that every Queen should have a little mystery about herself. It time to make men court us again and treat us like the Queens we are. What are we afraid of? Are we afraid that if we demand our respect we will be in the house dateless every weekend? Trust me Queens when you are blessed with your King, the mate that God has for you it will be worth more than gold.
Queens we have to also be able to take care of ourselves and not have to depend on anyone else. I’m not saying be so independent that you make your King feel like he is not needed but be your own person. Find out what makes you happy, get an education and don’t just get a job but a career. We have to start teaching our daughters what it means to be their own woman, believe it or not it’s not about finding a man who will take care of you while you sit around and do nothing. Times have changed men are looking for their equal. They want someone who is equal but at the same time will let them be the man. Trust me when a man sees that you want to work just as hard to build a strong foundation they won’t mind taking care of their woman because they know when times are hard you have their back. Where does all of this start you ask, at home! It may be a hard task because this generation is lost, I’m not sure how we lost our way but Queens it’s time to take ourselves back.